Call me crazy, but don’t we get so focused on shit that doesn’t matter that we forget the things that really do?

I, for one, had a knack for focusing on the things I’ve learned are quite meaningless. When I was younger though, OMG, did they ever seem meaningful.

My focus was on grades and achievements, appearance and popularity. I thought those were the things that would make me feel good.

In retrospect, I can see that’s probably why I felt so damn bad all the time.

What I want you to do this week is focus on the things that truly matter—the things that will make you feel good long-term, when you nail em’.

Here’s the deal, I’ve lived both ways—with a solid, stable character core and with a core that was more flimsy and self-serving. Life is so much better when you can count on yourself and others can trust you, too.

#DoThisThing to identify some not-so-proud moments. This way, you can note your weak spots—those triggers that make you act counter to your character core. Then, you’ll brainstorm some healthier ways to cope. This way, you’ll be prepared for next time.

Make sense? Give it a go!

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Illustrations by Wendy Chan.